Other Concerns

Sex therapy isn’t only about bodies that aren’t working in the way we want them to. Sex therapists are trained to help individuals and couples navigate all aspects of sexuality that can show up in and outside of the bedroom in your dynamic, connection, and relationship with yourself and your partner. We provide therapy that focuses on issues related to gender and sexual identity, relationship structure, and sexual interests and behaviours that aren’t always talked about.

LGBTQ2S+ Concerns

Coming out to yourself or to others can be scary, and navigating those transitions on your own can be tough. Whether you would like to explore this area of your identity and concerns that may be coming up around it with a queer-identified counsellor, or whether you are looking to work with any queer-allied therapist, our team is proud to be LGBTQ2S+-friendly and aware.

Ethical non-monogamy and polyamory, including opening up your relationship

Monogamy is considered the norm in our community, and yet, it may not be where you are at or what you are looking for in a relationship. If you’ve been thinking about opening up your relationship or are attempting to navigate some challenges you may be experiencing through ethical non-monogamy, all therapists at Allura are ethical non-monogamy competent and aware to help you find the right relationship structure for you.

BDSM, kink, and fetishes

You may have noticed that your sexual fantasies and interests aren’t as mainstream or “vanilla” as others and are unsure how to feel about it or even navigate it. On the other hand, you may know that kink is part of your life and are needing some support with your exploration. Working with a therapist at Allura will help to empower you to understand your erotic interests and desires and learn to explore them in a safe, consensual, and risk-aware way!

Paraphilias, including exhibitionism, voyeurism, or pedophilia

When our sexual thoughts, interests, or behaviours are considered atypical or unusual, it can be hard to feel as if you’re normal or will be accepted. We can support you to feel less shame and be more accepting of this part of your sexuality, including feeling in control of your desires and knowing they don’t control you. 

Out of control sexual behaviour, including compulsive masturbation, porn use, or sex

Sometimes, our sexual behaviour becomes more intense and frequent to the point that it’s disrupting our personal lives, ability to work, and our relationship with our partners and ourselves. Shifting from feeling out of control and powerless over pornography or sex, you can start to feel confident and connected to sex and heal what’s driving the feelings and behaviours underneath.

Differences in desire

At one point or another, all relationships will have partners that have a different interest in the frequency of sexual activity and connection. Most of us shift naturally through this, but sometimes, it can cause tension and resentment in the relationship. We can work together with all partners to feel more aligned and in tune in their sexual connection and not worry that rejection will be a permanent and continuous part of their relationship.